Yes, I’m talking to You, unfriendly Mom.

Some parents just baffle me. Yes, I have friendly kids. And if you can’t deal with that, quite frankly, that’s your loss!

You see, I’m trying to raise good human beings here. So yes, I’ve taught my kids to greet adults, because it’s respectful to do. I’ve taught them to include other kids in their play because it’s kind and it’s a part of raising considerate, empathetic children.  I’ve taught them to say please, and thank you (even though they might need to be reminded from time to time) because decent manners are the building blocks of a good character. And, the last time I checked, it wasn’t that hard to just be polite!


When my child says hello, do the right thing and say hello back. It’s OK to smile a little as well, it’s not that difficult, especially with a cute kid smiling back at you!

Oh, and when my 20 month old stops your baby from falling off a slide, and gives her a hug to make sure she is OK… It’s OK to say thank you. Maybe even add a few words like, “wow, you’re such a big girl”… I think that’s the least you can do since a 20-month old comforted your child while you had your eyes glued to your cellphone. (Which yes, we all do from time to time. That’s not the issue here)

If my daughter brings your child’s bottle to you (that she found lying on the floor, again). This is just a thought; say THANK YOU! It’s a great way to show appreciation. You don’t need to look at her like she’s some sort of alien invader!

Yes, your son is too big for the play area, but I totally understand that you can’t leave him behind, but if he is running around hitting and kicking people because he thinks he is the next karate kid, maybe a quiet word about playing a little calmer would help, especially when every other kid there is half his size… Heck, maybe even put him at the table with an ice-cream, I don’t know, but hurting/intimidating smaller children is not ok!

I know kids are rowdy, trust me, I have 4…And we don’t need to stifle their energy or put a lid on their fun, but seriously, there’s nothing wrong with a little discipline every now and then.

I realize you were engrossed in your FRIENDLY conversation with your other unfriendly mom. And we would hate to interrupt. But come on. These are little kids. They don’t understand why a grown-up is being so unkind to them. Shame on You!

So yes, to you “unfriendly mom”, learn to smile… and a little kindness won’t hurt either!


Jacqui Bester