I don’t know about the rest of you, but for me, Valentine’s day tends to be a very rushed, manic, and frustrating day (at least in recent years that’s been the case in our house). We wake up, have a quick kiss, pull out a card, chocolate, or maybe a bunch of flowers and we’re all set to go…
And by “go” I mean the little one needs a nappy change, the older 3 need food NOW! The day starts with a relieved sigh of gratitude; “Oh thank goodness we both remembered”, and then quickly spirals out from there.
To make matters worse, there is the added pressure of having to buy a gift – or make one – to show your partner how much you love them (fine, I’ll admit that this is usually a self-imposed pressure, but that doesn’t make it any easier). But, just to prove that it’s not always self-imposed pressure, here’s an example of a recent conversation: “So”, she asked, “what is YOUR husband getting you for Valentine’s Day, anything exciting?” I felt like replying, “Why? Does the size of the gift determine who has a better husband?”
When did Valentine’s Day become such a sales gimmick?
Is that, seriously, how shallow we have become? Forgive me for getting on my ‘soapbox’ a little here…
I think the fact that you actually have someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day with is a gift worth celebrating! Shouldn’t every day be a celebration of love?
The world would be a far more beautiful place if we all woke up every day and started it with little “gifts” of patience, kindness, thoughtfulness, a kiss, a lingering cuddle, the list could go on… really.
If we began each day with an appreciation for the one we love, the whole day would take on a different direction. Marriages and relationships would be stronger and better able to face gloomy and hard days.
Now I know that, as with most important things, sometimes we need a little reminder. So, yes, I do believe that there is some value in Valentine’s Day; if for no other reason than it gives us an opportunity to pause and pay attention to the love we have in our lives.
But few would disagree that we need to address Valentine’s Day in a different way, a more meaningful way. So I decided to write a brief letter to the main culprit, Cupid himself, as my attempt to approach Valentine’s Day in a new way…
Dear Cupid On Valentines Day.
If it’s all about you, and not about us, go away.
If it’s about plastic hearts, and teddies that collect dust, I’m not interested.
If it’s about flowers that die and chocolates that get devoured, take it somewhere else.
For you see, the love of MY life is with me every day in a real way. He makes me laugh EVERY DAY, my pulse quickens when he smiles at me, EVERY DAY, and when he whispers in my ear that he loves me, EVERY DAY…
Even on the tough days… I truly experience real love. So yes, although all those spoils and treats are special, I love being reminded EVERY DAY just how blessed I am! That’s what makes me complete – not just one day of the year.
So here’s to appreciating the ones we love. EVERY DAY!
No need to apologise! I’m with you 100%. We don’t do valentines day and we never have. It’s all a load of commercial cr*p aimed at getting people to spend money! #GlobalBlogging
Amen to that! x
We don’t do much of anything for Valentine’s Day – never have and likely never will. My birthday falls on the 2nd so we “go out” for that and then if we can take another “date night” within the month we’ll do it. We’re not a flowers and candy household. We do up Valentines for the kids at school and that’s enough stress, thank-you-very-much! I very much prefer celebrating each other every day. Hugs, “I love you”s and general kindness and respect are all I need.
Well I hope you had a wonderful birthday! I would rather celebrate that! :) And yes, school valentines are the worst! I have 3 kids in school = 90 valentines I have to prepare.. AARRGG. :)
I LOVE THIS!!! I also think that Valentines day is way too commercial and it is another way for the big companies to make yet more money. When you have that special one you should be thankful everyday! x #GlobalBlogging
Agree 100% .. xx
Appreciate the person in your life everyday. Not just one day a year. Sounds like you have a magic husband to share Valentine’s Day (and every day) with. #globalblogging
Thank’s Jeanette, I sure do – lucky me :) … xx
I HATE Valentines Day- with a passion.
Clearly I am a real romantic chick!
Haha! Sometimes I feel like it is just another thing to add to the LONG list of things that I have already forgotten to do…. Just buy me a bottle of wine and I’m happy! :)
Aw! Made me mile! I don’t put too much importance on it personally and feel bad for those not in a couple.
I agree, there is so much hype around it, I couldn’t imagine being lonely on such an over advertised day. What a guilt trip!
This is fab. So cynical and yet so emotive at the same time. Down with commercial cupids and here’s to just appreciating our loved ones. #GlobalBlogging
haha! Yeah! Who likes a chubby angel anyway :)
Ahh… true love doesn’t need valentines day :) #GlobalBlogging
Hear! Hear! xx
Hahaha! So KISS IT, Cupid! ;-) I’m like you and have never been a big fan of V-Day. SO commercialized. Demonstrating love for someone should never be forced but shown naturally. Having said all that, I do think it’s kinda cute for the little tykes. :-)
So Kiss It Cupid, LOVE that!
Hear hear! I couldn’t agree more, yet I’m sure I’ll still feel disappointed if I don’t get flowers on Valentine’s Day! Lol #globalblogging
True! Us woman are so hard to please sometimes. :)
Thanks for making me feel better about my own thoughts on Valentines day . Its like Christmas, a retailers dream! Be loving everyday I say, God knows with all the pressure on us we need to be strong together as couples, one day a year doesn’t cut it.
Amen to all you said! Can we just have a few months of the year when we don’t have to organize or remember something? :)
I believe we should celebrate our love everyday, buy random gifts to each other with no special occasion just that you remembered you husband when you saw this so you had to get it for him and vise versa. #globalblogging
I couldn’t agree with you more! I think that shows a deeper appreciation than the obligatory red rose on valentines day! xx
Absolutely agree with you wholeheartedly on this – we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day really in our house as it shouldn’t be on one day we show our appreciation of each other. Often we forget to at all quite frankly! But it’s a 365 day thing. #GlobalBlogging
Most definitely! xx
Aw sweet. I found we were buying each other things for Valentine’s Day just for the sake of it so we set up a new rule…we don’t bother with Valentine’s but we make an extra fuss on our wedding anniversary. Well that lasted for one year I think and we haven’t done anything special since. ;( Ah well! #GlobalBlogging
Yup, life sure does change once the kids arrive. But even words of kindness and thankfulness show an appreciation and mean so much more than a silly red card. xxx
I don’t like buying or being bought a bunch of crap you don’t need. I don’t mind the holiday itself though, but I would much rather celebrate by going out to a nice dinner and spending time with each other. #globalblogging
Completely agree, it shouldn’t be about one day, but it is nice to take some time out to spend it together and appreciate each other. Sometimes it’s hard to do that on a regular basis. We normally just cook a really nice meal and snuggle together on the sofa. Maybe no different to a Saturday night, but somehow it’s more important as it’s all about just us.
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Nothing beats curling up on the sofa and just making time for each other! Cuddling sure makes everything better! xx
I agree – it is a load of old commercial toot, but I still get / make a card for my husband. I tell him I love him every day, but it feels a bit ungrateful to not acknowledge the day in some way! #globalblogging
Most definitely. !!
I love your post as I completely agree with you. Me and my husband don’t celebrate Valentine’s day with gifts and cards but we open a bottle of wine or champagne and I usually make some chocolate desserts which everyone in our house loves;). But all this can and does happen on an ordinary tuesday night somewhere during the year with no reason at all. ;) Just because we feel like it;) And because we LOVE each other every day. :)
Love every bit of your comment. I can’t wait to drink Champagne again!!! xxx
We are a bit lazy with valentines day and tend to just get a card, a takeaway and some chocolates each. I prefer to celebrate our wedding anniversary instead #globalblogging
Any reason not to cook is a winner in my opinion! :)
You are so right. The ‘pressure’ we all put on ourselves is bad enough, without feeling pressured by outside parties. Love is shown between a couple every day in the smallest and most normal or ways, not just one day a year.
I really dislikenjoyed valentines day – just another gimmick trying to make me depart with more money. Totally agree it’s the little things that we do every day that make a difference x #globalblogging
Meant I dislike valentines day. Oops x
Can you imagine getting diamonds and perfume every year!?! …. :)
I love Valentine’s Day, but I fully agree that you need to embrace all the love in your life every day. But I do like special days, like Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine’s Days – I love the preparation period. I enjoy planning and looking forward to something special. And I love giving presents – but I fully agree, it’s now out of our hands, so commercial our special days became.
I think if we celebrate these days in our own way it can still be so special. I just think it is sad getting sucked into the whole commercial side of it you know? The bigger the better. When just a simple candlelit dinner at home or a restaurant should be just as special. Or a card etc. Love your comment! x
We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day!!
To appreciate each other it has to be in every day’s action of respect and love and enjoying the little moments in life.
Thank you for this wonderful post!
Amen to that! x
We don’t celebrate Valentines day, my husband says he refuses to be dictated to as to when to be romantic, although I wouldn’t mind it as he isn’t really romantic any other day of the year either!! #GlobalBlogging
Sometimes a little reminder is necessary when it comes to the male species :) xx
We do all take Valentine’s Day for granted and forget the true meaning of it and just get caught up in the gifts. I don’t think my OH and I will be doing anything special this year, our first year with the baby and he is so clingy don’t think we can leave him with anyone for a dinner date #Globalblogging
Yeah! Life sure does change once we put kids into the picture… We haven’t had a night alone in almost 2 years! :( x
Great post and you’re right with what you say.. One valentines day I spent in a bingo hall with my other half. It was the strangest yet most fun valentines I’ve ever had! #globalblogging
That sounds like a total blast!! :)
We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day but as my birthday is so close to it my husband does add an extra flower in the birthday bouquet to show his romantic side is still alive and kicking. #globalblogging
Haha! Love the birthday bouquet! Hope its a huge one. Happy Birthday lovely! x
Great post, I totally agree. We don’t really bother with Valentine’s Day not least because it’s actually my husband’s birthday on that day and that’s far more important to me x
So many birthdays on Valentines. That makes it extra romantic! Hope he has a wonderful day!
Oh Geez….I don’t even remember the last time I celebrated Valentine’s Day. Such a fake commercial day, don’t you think!? Oh well…something to say about fueling an economy with cheesy hearts and chocolates. Sorry to be such a downer #globalblogging
Valentines??? whats that :) haha
We aren’t very valentinesy around here either, i get some stuff for the kids and we make dinner at home and have dessert when we normally wouldn’t, but that’s about it!
Nothing better than a chocolate surprise! x
Totally agree! I just like the fact my man takes me out for a meal… all about the food! And some free chocolate never goes amiss! We date very often but its a sure thing that we will get a babysitter for Valentines day as our family realise the necessity for us to maintain our relationship… but we don’t but in to all of the plastic, overpriced, pink heart shiz! <3 #globalblogging
We also go out for dinner. More of a date night than anything else! But yes, no teddies that collect dust or silly glitter covered plastic roses. EW..
I agree that it should not be about purchases but rather the everyday gestures. #globalblogging
100% agree! x
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You are SOOOO right! Chris and I are having a meal together without the kids but not bothering with cards or presents. I hope he knows how much I love him, it’s the little things like making sure he never runs out of pants etc! #ThatFridayLinky
My husband and I don’t really do Valentines day. To me it’s all a bit too commercial and just about these companies and shops making money. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky