Would you do an emotional detox?
Living in a society that is so vocal about the importance of healthy living, one would think that the emotional side of this “healthy living” would take up the same volume of vocal space. Sadly, however, it seems to me that many people are concerned with being physically healthy (being thin enough, pretty enough, etc. spending thousands on plastic surgery, botox, hair, nails, clothes, etc.), while ignoring the value of being emotionally healthy. Now I’m not saying that looking after your body is bad – of course not – it is imperative! But I am saying that I think that there should be a more holistic view of what “healthy living” means.
After all, who really cares if you look pretty while being a narcissistic psychopath… (ok, maybe that’s a little dramatic, but I think you catch my drift). I guess what I’m trying to say, albeit a little clumsily, is that looking after the physical aspect of our well-being is just no more important than looking after the emotional aspect.
But how do we do this? It’s relatively easy to look after ourselves physically, right? We can adjust our diets, take on a new exercise program, or adopt a more active hobby, the options are myriad… But what do we do in order to improve our emotional health?
This post is an exploration of that very question…
Now granted, I’m not very good at following advice that says; “30 days to be a better this”, or “the 101 of improved that”. Actually, after the first 3 days, I’d MOST probably lose interest… I have before… That is definitely a character flaw of mine, I’ll admit it. Anyway, this got me thinking. How can we emotionally “revive” ourselves in just 7 days… Yup, 7 days! So I thought I would try this myself and see if it works…
7 Day Emotional Detox
Day 1. Get up & Get out
This could be any number of things. The important thing is that you personalize it for yourself. For me, I need to remind myself to exercise and pick up a pair of dumbbells. Whether it be running around the garden with my kids, going for a walk, or getting out of my PJs so that I can meet another mom for a play date! Physically getting ourselves dressed and ready for the day can do wonders for our sense of self-worth. This could also be getting out to try something new, a haircut, a theme park, or a 10K run. It’s about the “getting up and out” part. Do this every day for a week and you will be on the road to an emotionally “healthier” self.
Day 2. Let it Go – Get rid of the Worry
When I read this step I see myself all dressed to the nines, (after releasing some adrenaline with the Day 1 program). Like Elsa, running up a snow-covered mountain belting out LET IT GO at the top of my voice. Who cares what people think, you will feel better afterward… Trust me… The realization that sometimes things are out of our control is a vital step. We sadly cannot change the world, we can definitely make an effort, but worry just steals the joy from right under you. Forget about the things you cannot change, focus on the positive, and move forward!
Day 3. Moving on up
By focusing on the positive it is easier to forget about the negative. Look for the positive things in your life, every day. For some of us, these might seem really small and insignificant in the beginning, but the more we focus on them, the bigger they become. The more we invest in these things, the more important we realize they are. Thus giving us a sense of self-worth, of belonging to something more than ourselves.
Day 4. Cut the cord
This is a hard one, I kid you not. But sometimes we just have to be strong enough to make the decision to remove ourselves from those toxic relationships that we know are unhealthy. The relationships that keep draining our energy and joy, without really adding any meaningful value. Sadly there are many emotional vampires in this world. And try as we might, we can’t always help them and sacrifice ourselves. We need to “rip off the band-aid” and make a choice to move forward (Day 2).
Day 5. De-clutter your online life
We tend to live our lives in response to the short “highlight” reels of our friends’ Social Media posts. Hoping that our reality will come to resemble what we see (and sometimes post) on these platforms… We see these beautiful family photos, exotic holidays, fancy cars, and the latest fashions, and we think to ourselves; Man my life sucks if only I can get some of this for myself! This is a sad place to be. In my opinion, it can cause a deep depression that, if not dealt with, can lead to some very desperate situations. Social Media can be the venom that eats away at the lives we live by making us think that our lives are insignificant, but it is probably very beautiful! So delete those friends that aren’t healthy, erase the phone numbers of those emotional vampires, and close the email list of people that drain you. Even if just for a little while. Choose your own life over someone else’s.
Day 6. Do what you love
I have spoken about this before… Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily routines that we put what needs to be done before what we would LOVE to do. Of course, we need to sometimes just put our heads down and get things done. But not always! This may mean that we actually need to sit down and physically write out a Bucket List of short-term dreams and long-term wishes. It’s important to do what you love. It gives you a sense of accomplishment.
Day 7. Be thankful, Grateful.
I think this is the most important day. Be thankful, grateful, for the people we love and the things we have. There is always someone, somewhere, who has less than us! Whom we could help. Just having clothes on our backs, food in our stomachs, and a roof over our heads is more than most. Add in our beautiful families and friends… wow! It’s like catching the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. And seeing our lives in the light of this broader narrative helps us to keep a more balanced perspective and to stay emotionally healthy.
I believe that if we can follow this 7-day plan… In just 1 week… you will be feeling emotionally lighter. Maybe physically too :)
Beautiful post and brilliant advice. Our mental health is so important and so fragile. #fortheloveofBLOG
Isn’t it just Geraldine! Something that definitely needs to be taken care of! Thank you for visiting!! X
Oh my gosh, I definitely need to do this My life at the moment has become far too stressful and toxic causing major anxiety all day every day! #fortheloveofBLOG
I hope it helps! I’ve done it and felt much “lighter”. Let me know how it goes. Would love to hear! X
This is a great post. I hadn’t really thought about it before but you are absolutely right – we spend so much time obsessing over our looks but not all that much time on our minds. I love the idea of a 7 day emotional detox, I might try this myself! Thanks for joining us on #fortheloveofBLOG
Thanks for reading! It’s great to refresh ourselves every now and then! x
I am going to bookmark this and have a go myself as quite honestly I am feeling very much in need of a detox! Thanks for sharing in #HappyDaysLinky x
I hope it goes well! xx
I really need to do more of this, especially the online life bit. I am so hooked on seeing what’s going on with other people, but I get so much done in my own life when I switch off from it! Thanks for linking up to #HappyDaysLinky x
I agree, sometimes switching off from the online life is a refresher in itself! x
Some good tips here. I’m one to do what needs to be done before doing what I love to do. That has got me into trouble in the past. I agree with the social media / cutting ties tips too. I keep my Facebook friend list pretty small for this very reason. I’m happy doing my own thing! #GlobalBlogging
So many good points here! Personally, I struggle with number 3. I tend to see the bad stuff rather than the other way round… But I am working on it!#GlobalBlogging
I need to do this. Thank you for a great post #globalblogging
LOVE this – you are so right that people fixate so much on ‘physical health’ and don’t think about mental health as much. These are great tips and lots are very much in keeping with Mindfulness – thanks for sharing. x #globalblogging
A great plan! Thanks for the reminders and putting them all neatly in order. I’ll be adding some of these important activities to my week :) #globalblogging
Great advice! I am a firm believer that there s no point in worrying about things that you have no control over but it is so difficult to not worry when there is always something to worry about!
Great advice, our mental health is just as important as our physical health. It’s good to get rid of toxins in our life and once you do you realise how much better life is without them #GlobalBlogging
I’m joining you! This is brilliant, such great advise and it couldn’t have been better timed for me! This is exactly what i needed to read this week. X
I seriously need to detox EVERYTHING
my body- my mind my soul. Like I need a complete overhaul!
Ah, an emotional detox is a wonderful idea and something we could ALL use. Thanks for sharing these great tips. Let the detoxing begin! #GlobalBlogging
I totally need to do this. Feeling pretty emotionally blah at the moment! #GlobalBlogging
Wonderful advice all around. I am pretty good at like 6 out of the 7, but #3, that one gets me. I am a g;ass-half-full person, but sometimes I get overwhelmed. I need to remember that even very small treats, are still treats! Brilliant! #GlobalBlogging xoxo
So true, so many people think being healthy is about looks but there really is no point in looking good if you feel awful inside, sadly people are very judgemental when it comes to putting yourself first emotionally but like you say it needs to be done before you can be there for anyone else. Fab post! #GlobalBlogging
What a great idea! I have to admit that I neglect my metal health more than I probably should – getting rid of worry is a tough one for me. I need to de-clutter my online life too for sure – social media can get so overwhelming, especially when you’re a blogger! #GlobalBlogging
Great idea. I try so hard with most of your points, de-clutter online life and cut-the-cord
still need work for me however. I’m such a blimmin people pleaser I do my own head in. You’ve motivated me though. Must do better. #glabalblogging
Super Super post! Read it twice – making mental notes to myself!!! I need this emotional detox so bad…
Great tips! I practice them a while and yes it’s so good to free the mind! ;-) Thank you for this wonderful post! #GlobalBlogging
some really great advice here. The get up and out really does help even if it’s just for 10 minutes #GlobalBlogging
I feel like shouting Amen and Hallelujah (and I’m not even that religious! ) but I couldn’t agree more! It’s so important to think emotional health as well as physical, especially us women have a tendency to think “oh I’ll be happier if I just loose those extra pounds” but the reality often is that if we don’t focus on our mindset and take a holistic approach to feeling better, then once the 2 pounds are gone we’ll just find a new thing to put ourselves down with! Thank you for bringing focus onto what I think is a very important subject! :-) xx #globalblogging
Great advice. Becoming a mom has made me a lot more critical about myself. I am wondering the whole time if I am doing it right. Time to let go and just detox and enjoy the moment. #globalblogging
Great idea. Since becoming a mom, I have been a lot more critical on myself. I am the whole time, wondering if I am doing it right. Time to let go and detox! #globalblogging
I’ve been taking steps that are similar to this detox, just on a slower pace. Unfortunately some relationships I’m cutting ties with are very close to me. I think the realisation and acceptance is worse than the act of cutting ties itself ?
Such a beautiful post!!! I need to take notice of some of these…especially number 2. I tend to worry way too much. #globalblogging
Great Post! I will definitely be trying out the 7 day plan I feel like i need the detox. I really need to cut the cord and de-clutter.#globalblogging
Im so glad I’ve come across this post. I really need it today. Thanks for sharing #globalblogging
This is brilliant! And has really kick-started my day, thanks so much! #globalblogging
There are some great ideas here. I am all for getting out – even if it is just 30 minutes around the block it is enough to blow those cobwebs away and feel refreshed. Also love letting it go or as I put it to my kids when they are troubled “just rise above it” . Decluttering our life in all senses is good too as negative things whether friendships or an addiction to social media can drag us down. Ultimately I am with you all the way. #globalblogging
Oh I love this, especially the last point. It’s so important to take stock of what we have and be grateful for it.
Some great advice, although sometimes it’s a lot easier said than done.
Fab post and such brilliant advice actually think I need to give it a go thanks for hosting #globalblogging
Lovely post. I like the lessons embedded in it and I appreciate the positivity. Now if only I could get off my behind and do something about it for myself. #globalblogging.
It could be argued that it is easier to change what we can see than that which we can’t. What we can’t see can scare us.The mind is of equal importance or maybe more so for it is through the mind that we change our thought pattern and can change our bodies. #globalblogging
Great post! I enjoyed to read it. I need that detox but I don’t know if I would be able to do all this ‘no worry’ about everything:D
Great recommendations for emotional detox and feeling happier. I would say is a good idea to do it with some frequency, like one week every month until the positive ways of being become uplifting habits. I agree with you, we need to appreciate and see the beauty in our own lives rather than external focus. I love the logo in your website, the baby looks like an angel
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