• ABC's Of Marriage
    Blog Posts,  Marriage

    Do you give your spouse your full acceptance?

    In this new series focusing on marriage, I’m setting out to work my way through the alphabet… call it the ABC’s on steroids… highlighting the things that I believe is paramount to a healthy and long-lasting relationship. But, before I start, let me be clear: I am in no way suggesting that my own marriage is perfect (far from it). In fact, it’s because I know it isn’t, that I think I’m able to put thought into what needs work and put words to my thoughts – in the hope that my own journey and reflections might be of some benefit to others. If we fall into the trap of…

  • Blog Posts,  Self Love

    Overcoming Feelings of Un-Appreciation!

    Whether you just happened to stumble upon this post or have come here from my Letters Of Lace series. Know that you are in the company of a good friend! There are seasons in life when our acts of service go unnoticed, when our kindness is accepted but not appreciated, when “thank you” and “I’m grateful” are phrases we hardly ever hear. In these seasons we feel a sense of meaninglessness – that who we are, and what we do doesn’t have real value. Perhaps you’re going through a season like this right now… Sometimes we wear a smile for the world. When in actual fact all we want to do is…

  • Blog Posts,  Self Love

    To The Woman Who Feels Unappreciated – Letters of Lace

    In my new series, entitled: “Letters of Lace“, I will be touching on themes and topics that explore some of the more desperate things we women struggle with. Difficult and dark experiences that drain every last ounce of our strength, and leave us feeling hopeless, overwhelmed and misunderstood. My aim is to write to the “Woman” who is experiencing this present darkness, to offer some comfort and help restore her hope. Letters of Lace are for all of us, feel free to forward them to the “Woman” you think might need a taste of hope and a touch of beauty. After all, there are few things more gentle on the…

  • Blog Posts,  Family

    So What If My Boys Are Adopted…

    Before I say anything else, let me make an opening confession… This is an incredibly emotional and difficult post for me to write. So forgive me if I get a little carried away at points, or if something might come across a little too strongly. I am a blogger, and while that may not seem like much to some people, it works for me. I spend a fair bit of my time writing about family (mainly my own), and my experiences of raising children. I share my views honestly, and bravely divulge things that I would otherwise choose to keep private… I am comfortable to write about most things concerning my family – however messy they may be. But still, there…

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    Why I Always Cry When Milestones Are Reached!

    I sit here, on yet another monumental day, thinking to myself: how on earth do we parents process all the emotions that pump through our veins? The bewildering mix of great pride when something new is learnt, terrible fear about an uncertain future, blood-curdling anger at bad behaviour, unbridled joy when we hear our children laugh and so many other emotions that course through our veins on a daily basis – all mixed together in a bowl called love deep, immeasurable, unconditional, life-changing and life-giving LOVE. Every thought, every feeling that our children inflict upon evoke within us, is intense and I often wonder how we parents survive that. Yesterday my…

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    An Open Letter To My Children – Be More Than Me.

    I look into your beautiful eyes and I see… I see dreams, and possibility, and promise, and hope for the future. I see the potential to change the world, to make it more than it is today, better than it was yesterday. I see pure ambition, genuine freedom, fearless curiosity, a humble teach-ability and eagerness to learn, courage, gentleness, innocence, strength, and kindness. But most of all, I see love… a willingness to love, and be loved, without reservation. You show such sincere love for the world around you; a world in which you do not yet see race, in which you do not pass judgment, in which you know…

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    Tattooed Mom

    When I was 18, I decided to get a tattoo. I know that, in some circles, the issue of tattoo’s are still a “taboo” subject of conversation. I also understand that people have their own opinions (as do I) and that these can be quite fervent when it comes to the question of whether tattoos are ok. This is a potentially emotive subject… First of all, it seems to me that we mothers have a real penchant for judging one another about almost anything; we judge each other about whether we breastfeed or not, how we gave birth, if we feed pureed homemade food or shop bought food, whether or…

  • Blog Posts

    My “Momster” – in law

    On Mother’s Day, we sometimes get so caught up in thanking our own mothers, grandmothers, aunts etc. that sometimes we forget about another special person… our Mother-In-Law. We forget that she spent just as much time, love, and care in her own household, raising that special person that we love with all our hearts. I know that there are many who either dislike or do not get along with their “Momster-in-law”, however that is not the case for me. I am fortunate enough to have the greatest relationship with mine. Sometimes we have disagreed, and there have been times when we have silently been upset with each other. But there…

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    Sometimes the answer will just be NO.

    The challenge of raising children in this day and age is fraught with tension between intention and pretension. There is a constant tug-of-war between doing what you think is right (intention), and doing what you think other parents believe is right (pretension). It’s a game of: “Should I … shouldn’t I?” We carry an invisible burden of guilt, because we choose to stand firm on a particular decision that other parents may have disagreed with, or considered a little too strict. (Their argument is that we may be “psychologically”  damaging our children by being strict. And I say that carefully, because this is another issue I have with today’s ideology of…

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    Guest Post – Mat Kelly – Breastfeeding, A Dad’s Perspective

    Breastfeeding…Yes, you heard right… Breastfeeding! And no, I don’t have boobs full of milk! I am wanting to express (pardon the pun!) how I felt as a dad within a breastfeeding household. Let me take you right to the start… Before we had children, I can honestly say, I didn’t know or mind how my offspring were going to be fed. Breastfeeding didn’t even register on my radar. All I knew was bottle feeding and that was cool with me – that’s until Stacey fell pregnant with Eleni. Breastfeeding was the only option for Stacey, and I mean literally the only one. I was always saying to her that I…

  • Blog Posts,  Family,  Marriage

    #tbt to The Day I Said “I Do”

    This week I’ve been thinking of two of my very special friends who are getting married this year. One actually ties the knot tomorrow… It got me thinking about the day I said “I do” (only a short 10 years ago). My husband and I were so young then (23 and 24 years old, respectively). Everything that leads up to the wedding day, seems to be a daze. The magical moment of getting engaged and slipping that sparkling ring onto your finger, the planning that starts pretty soon after saying ‘yes’, to the moment you walk down the isle with eyes only for the man of your dreams. Absolute perfection……

  • Blog Posts,  Family

    20 Positive Phrases My Children Need To Hear!

    There are often days that get so busy or “out of hand” that I tend to forget to affirm my children for all the little positive things they do during the day. We get so caught up in trying to correct their negative behavior (because that is our job/hope as parents – to raise noncriminals 🙂 ) that we sometimes fail to uplift and praise them as well. We are so flustered because we are running between work, children and other household responsibilities that we tend to neglect the need to stop, and appreciate the effort that our little ones have put into doing what’s right. A few days ago…