• Blog Posts,  Family,  Self Love

    Hope After Diagnosis

    Your Infertility Options Having struggled myself trying to fall pregnant for 6 years (I know you wouldn’t think that having 5 children of my own). I found the hope and information that this article gives, inspiring.  You’re dreaming of the perfect family, but your fertility doctor has just given you the news. You will likely need a donor egg in order to achieve success. You feel deflated, drained, and wonder whether you’ll ever achieve your dream of being a mom. Despite trying traditional IVF and still struggling to conceive, there are successful options available to you.  Including using an egg donor. The egg donation process is much easier to coordinate…

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    Mindful Mothering

    I was enjoying some mommy reading this weekend and stumbled upon this article from one of my favorite South African magazines, YOUR FAMILY. With just over 2 weeks to go until our little man arrives, I must admit my patience has been incredibly short, my mood dark and dreary, and my poor kids (and husband) have been the unfortunate recipients of a super grumpy mommy. And there it is, sneaking quietly in through the back door… #momguilt (I’m sure we’ve all felt it before). YOUR FAMILY has set up a Mom Challenge for this coming month. One challenge per day. I have already put reminders on my phone (because that’s how much…

  • Blog Posts,  Self Love

    Overcoming Feelings of Un-Appreciation!

    Whether you just happened to stumble upon this post or have come here from my Letters Of Lace series. Know that you are in the company of a good friend! There are seasons in life when our acts of service go unnoticed, when our kindness is accepted but not appreciated, when “thank you” and “I’m grateful” are phrases we hardly ever hear. In these seasons we feel a sense of meaninglessness – that who we are, and what we do doesn’t have real value. Perhaps you’re going through a season like this right now… Sometimes we wear a smile for the world. When in actual fact all we want to do is…

  • Blog Posts,  Family

    Dear Friend – With No Kids!

    A little while ago a very dear and special friend made a passing comment that she never read my blog because she wasn’t a mom. As human nature would have it, I was a tad offended. However, once I was able to get over my self pity and think a little deeper into why she made that comment, I was sad for a different reason! You see dear friend, I too know what it feels like to long for a baby. To watch as others are filled with an unspeakable joy whilst I sit in the background broken and hurting. I remember all too well all the Dr’s appointments, all…

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    Yes, We Are Pregnant – Here’s our story!

    OK, so I’ll be the first to admit that this was a bit of a surprise for my husband and I (a very pleasant surprise, mind you, but a surprise nonetheless). Let me tell you why! Sure, I might be biased, but I think we have a pretty amazing story. You see; before we were married, Mr B and I decided NOT to have children at all. Our plan was to travel, do some humanitarian work and explore the world. Clearly, that didn’t end up as we had originally planned – for very good reason. Once we were married, and realized that we had suddenly become a family of our…

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    The Joy Finding Bucket List

    A few weeks ago I wrote a post about “Finding My Joy Again“. In it I explored the question of whether or not it is possible for a mother to find and enjoy the same unbridled JOY that our children seem to revel in. They always seem so carefree, without stress, and purely happy! The answer to this question is: Yes! Of course it possible… It’s just simply a matter of “how?”. This post is an exploration of that… Last weekend I was fortunate enough to have some time out at a wonderful ladies retreat. It was here that I started to think more deeply about real and pure JOY. I…

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    Is the Table Set?

    Now that our children are older, we try to have our meals seated at the table. We don’t always get it right because our lives are so busy and sometimes our schedules won’t allow it, but we do our best. Why do we strive to eat at the table? Read the following 5 reasons and let us know if you agree, or disagree, or if you would add anything? 1.Table Setting. Teaching our children how to set a table creates an awareness of etiquette which I believe is a fundamental learning point. It gives our children a sense of pride in setting things ‘right’ and incorporates working as a team with…

  • Infertility
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    The Everlasting Impact Of A Father

    Growing up without a father meant that, among other things, I always found it difficult to understand and appreciate the dynamics and beauty of a relationship between a father and his child(ren)… That is, until I got married. It was a strange sight to see. The love and adoration my kids feel for this man that holds my heart! To be honest, I still struggle to fully understand it. I never knew it as a child, so it still surprises me a little when I see the unbridled love and affection my kids have for their father. My lack of understanding notwithstanding, it’s a beautiful sight to behold! Relationship I…

  • Infertility
    Blog Posts,  Family

    My Family And Our Painful Truth

    That moment… you look into each others’ eyes, you say I do, and for those few seconds, time stops…  Absolute bliss, perfect romance, pure delight and unwavering love (family). The next few years seem to rush by in a flash. You make a home, putting your own unique touch on everything from furniture to cutlery. You embark on new adventures and explore all sorts of new experiences. Finally, when you both decide you’re as ready as you’ll ever be the time comes to start A FAMILY. Well, it didn’t quite work out like that for me. When my husband and I decided to start trying for a baby the excitement took over… It…

  • Blog Posts,  Family

    Forgive Me Son

    My son and I had a defining moment this week. Those moments that make you think and feel so deeply it’s almost unfathomable. You can’t explain it, really, you just know that this moment will change your life. This is exactly how I felt with my son this week. Well, I had a moment just like that a few weeks back. My 4-year-old was driving me up the wall. He was “Tigger” personified… It was bounce, bounce here, roar, roar there… I just knew it was going to be one of THOSE days. After many warnings, I had just had enough. My voice got louder and my words got harder.…

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    Daily Pleasures

    My husband and I found ourselves oversleeping this morning. Which doesn’t happen often and after yesterday’s eventful wake-up call, (Read my blog post “Are You Cross Mommy?”)  it felt good to have a little reprieve and lie in! A little pleasure to our day! There were no major hiccups with the morning routine. No tears or tantrums. My eldest was sent off to school all smiles and the younger three left playing with Duplo in the family room. I was able to get all my morning chores done and even a few extra. Since becoming a stay at home mom, I have felt every emotion one could imagine. I was…

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    Are You Cross Mommy?

    You just know your morning is going to be fantastic when you’re woken up by your 3-year-old throwing up… She’s in your bed, so you launch into a slow-motion ninja move straight out of some action movie just to get her to the bathroom in time…  This is all before the clock hits 6:00 am! You find yourself short-tempered and moody because you’ve been denied that blissful morning wake-up call of birds chirping, and the aroma of coffee drifting into your bedroom… Its rather like having cold water poured over you! You look like Eeyore, walking around with that dark rainy cloud looming over your head and every now and then…