This week I stepped out of my positive little corner to do something that I felt was right. The online repercussions were horrific and the negativity that ensued popped my little happy balloon.
Maybe I went about it the wrong way, maybe I didn’t express myself clearly and maybe it was just one big misunderstanding. But the reality is that it brought a lot of negativity my way. And will probably continue to. By putting my opinion and convictions out there, doing what I believed to be right. I attracted all the kinds of negativity I don’t want to be surrounded by. Lesson learned.
This has left me a little shell-shocked to be honest. How do I move on from here? That’s a good question! Luckily I have an amazing support system. One that I am incredibly grateful for.
I try to hold myself to a level of integrity that I know to be right. I also hold others to the same. This… might not be the best approach. People do things differently and our opinions differ as well. That’s what makes us all so amazing. The problem lies in the moment these different opinions clash. And how we respond to that.
I reached out to a few of my fellow bloggers in the UK and USA to share with and encourage me on how to stay true to ourselves in this world of Social Media.
Here’s what they had to say
Katie of Mummy In A Tutu
Multi-Award Nominated Parenting Lifestyle & Veggie Food Blogger / Featured on BBC & The Metro. Founder of
Blogging is a whole massive world that no one expects. If you’re not a part of it you’ll have no idea how deep and far it goes. Being true to yourself as a blogger is such a huge and integral part otherwise you’ll find yourself lost and drowning in a sea of others doing the exact same thing as you. Lots of people think… “Oh, I won’t start a blog because I have nothing different to say or talk about…” but actually you do because no one else is you. You might have the same viewpoint as others but no one will voice your opinion the same way as you can.
Something I have been hugely praised for on my blog is my brutal honesty – if something is hard, then I say it’s hard. Life isn’t all roses and twinkle lights and the non-blogging world does not always want to see that sugar-coated perfect insta-life. Be you. Be true to yourself AND be true to others too.
Vicki Psarias of Honest Mum
Blogger/ Vlogger/ Filmmaker/ TV Director & Founder of one of the biggest blogs, worldwide, Honest Mum® – Author of Mum Boss
Integrity means everything to me, both on and offline. Trust is key and is the basis for all meaningful relationships. Whenever I meet readers at events or even on the street, the first thing they tell me, is that I’m exactly the same as on my blog and social channels.
I can’t pretend. Nor have I ever been able to, and thank goodness too. It’s vital that you share your true personality online, for that is what others will connect with. You. People are smart and fine-tuned into reading others, plus faux fronts can only last so long.
Of course, being yourself doesn’t mean you have to share absolutely everything about your life, it just means that your opinions and voice must speak of your values and principles. You must show up as yourself, which whilst emotionally vulnerable is crucial in eliciting a real connection with your readers and viewers. It will also provide you with longevity online.
The same applies to paid relationships. I only work with and write about brands I love and equally my editorial content and opinion pieces always come from the heart. What you see is what you get with me. I’m of course mindful of what I’m putting out there into the public domain so I won’t ever show my children in school uniform for example, nor do I swear online (something Google and my Dad isn’t a fan of). Furthermore, I would never write about anything my family or friends might feel uncomfortable or pained about.
Nigel Higgins of DIY Daddy
#2 UK Dad Blogger 2017 / #8 UK Parent Blogger 2017 / #3 Uk Dad Blogger via Tots 100
Keeping your blog real, that’s a tough one. I personally think you always need to go back to the beginning and the birth of your blog. It will remind you why you started. For me, the reason I started blogging was to chronicle my life, and my children’s adventures and lives. It hopefully will be my legacy to my children. Even though I now do a lot of sponsored work, I still try to keep it as natural as possible and also write a lot of purely natural posts about our lives. My philosophy is simple. Always remember why people started to read your blog. The reason is usually that it’s everyday family life. That will always keep it real.
Katy of Experienced Bad Mom
Featured on Blog Her, Parent.Co, The Sits Girls, Bloggers Network Influencer, Scary Mommy, Mamalode, Mock Mom, Pregnancy Magazine, Ann Arbor Family Press, Metro Parent and Sammiches & Psych Meds.
I’ve had some posts go viral and was thrilled by the attention. But I found it oddly stressful, too, as people I didn’t know would seemingly argue the point of my post, just for the sake of arguing. Most of the viral attention has been short-lived and I’m thankful for that in a way. Because I write because I enjoy writing. And most of my posts are read and commented on by a small, but loyal, group of readers, who encourage me rather than criticize me. So it’s to the people who get me and support that I keep writing and sharing myself.
Franca of A Moment With Franca
“For me, it is very important to not compare myself to others. This is a bad habit and can bring bad energy. It is important to be you and to do what you like. Show what you are passionate about because your readers will pick up on that. They will know you are authentic. However, before you do that you need to know who you are, so try to think what is it that you want to say or do that makes you happy and then do it. I also think that it is very important to show your personality, don’t hide your flaws, actually, it is better if you embrace them. Blogging is more than a hobby for me. It is a passion. I do it because I love it and it makes me happy, so when something makes you feel that way, you will definitely shine!”
I’m very grateful that I have blogger friends across the globe that keep me centered, encourage me to love what I do and stand strong in who I am…
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