Staying True To Myself As A Blogger

This week I stepped out of my positive little corner to do something that I felt was right. The online repercussions were horrific and the negativity that ensued popped my little happy balloon.

Maybe I went about it the wrong way, maybe I didn’t express myself clearly and maybe it was just one big misunderstanding. But the reality is that it brought a lot of negativity my way.  And will probably continue to. By putting my opinion and convictions out there, doing what I believed to be right. I attracted all the kinds of negativity I don’t want to be surrounded by. Lesson learned.

This has left me a little shell-shocked to be honest. How do I move on from here? That’s a good question! Luckily I have an amazing support system. One that I am incredibly grateful for.

I try to hold myself to a level of integrity that I know to be right. I also hold others to the same. This… might not be the best approach. People do things differently and our opinions differ as well. That’s what makes us all so amazing. The problem lies in the moment these different opinions clash. And how we respond to that.

I reached out to a few of my fellow bloggers in the UK and USA to share with and encourage me on how to stay true to ourselves in this world of Social Media.

Here’s what they had to say

Katie of Mummy In A Tutu

Multi-Award Nominated Parenting Lifestyle & Veggie Food Blogger / Featured on BBC & The Metro. Founder of 

Blogging is a whole massive world that no one expects. If you’re not a part of it you’ll have no idea how deep and far it goes. Being true to yourself as a blogger is such a huge and integral part otherwise you’ll find yourself lost and drowning in a sea of others doing the exact same thing as you. Lots of people think… “Oh, I won’t start a blog because I have nothing different to say or talk about…” but actually you do because no one else is you. You might have the same viewpoint as others but no one will voice your opinion the same way as you can.

Something I have been hugely praised for on my blog is my brutal honesty – if something is hard, then I say it’s hard. Life isn’t all roses and twinkle lights and the non-blogging world does not always want to see that sugar-coated perfect insta-life. Be you. Be true to yourself AND be true to others too.

Vicki Psarias of Honest Mum 

Blogger/ Vlogger/ Filmmaker/ TV Director & Founder of one of the biggest blogs, worldwide, Honest Mum® – Author of Mum Boss

Integrity means everything to me, both on and offline. Trust is key and is the basis for all meaningful relationships. Whenever I meet readers at events or even on the street, the first thing they tell me, is that I’m exactly the same as on my blog and social channels.

I can’t pretend. Nor have I ever been able to, and thank goodness too. It’s vital that you share your true personality online, for that is what others will connect with. You. People are smart and fine-tuned into reading others, plus faux fronts can only last so long. 

Of course, being yourself doesn’t mean you have to share absolutely everything about your life, it just means that your opinions and voice must speak of your values and principles. You must show up as yourself, which whilst emotionally vulnerable is crucial in eliciting a real connection with your readers and viewers. It will also provide you with longevity online. 

The same applies to paid relationships. I only work with and write about brands I love and equally my editorial content and opinion pieces always come from the heart. What you see is what you get with me. I’m of course mindful of what I’m putting out there into the public domain so I won’t ever show my children in school uniform for example, nor do I swear online (something Google and my Dad isn’t a fan of). Furthermore, I would never write about anything my family or friends might feel uncomfortable or pained about. 

Nigel Higgins of DIY Daddy

 #2 UK Dad Blogger 2017 / #8 UK Parent Blogger 2017 /  #3 Uk Dad Blogger via Tots 100

Keeping your blog real, that’s a tough one. I personally think you always need to go back to the beginning and the birth of your blog. It will remind you why you started. For me, the reason I started blogging was to chronicle my life, and my children’s adventures and lives. It hopefully will be my legacy to my children. Even though I now do a lot of sponsored work, I still try to keep it as natural as possible and also write a lot of purely natural posts about our lives. My philosophy is simple. Always remember why people started to read your blog. The reason is usually that it’s everyday family life. That will always keep it real.

Katy of Experienced Bad Mom

Featured on Blog Her, Parent.Co, The Sits Girls, Bloggers Network Influencer, Scary Mommy, Mamalode, Mock Mom, Pregnancy Magazine, Ann Arbor Family Press, Metro Parent and Sammiches & Psych Meds.

I’ve had some posts go viral and was thrilled by the attention. But I found it oddly stressful, too, as people I didn’t know would seemingly argue the point of my post, just for the sake of arguing. Most of the viral attention has been short-lived and I’m thankful for that in a way. Because I write because I enjoy writing. And most of my posts are read and commented on by a small, but loyal, group of readers, who encourage me rather than criticize me. So it’s to the people who get me and support that I keep writing and sharing myself.

Franca of A Moment With Franca

Multi-award nominated family, lifestyle & travel blog. Part of vlogger team for  and . Creator of 

“For me, it is very important to not compare myself to others. This is a bad habit and can bring bad energy. It is important to be you and to do what you like. Show what you are passionate about because your readers will pick up on that. They will know you are authentic. However, before you do that you need to know who you are, so try to think what is it that you want to say or do that makes you happy and then do it. I also think that it is very important to show your personality, don’t hide your flaws, actually, it is better if you embrace them. Blogging is more than a hobby for me. It is a passion. I do it because I love it and it makes me happy, so when something makes you feel that way, you will definitely shine!”

I’m very grateful that I have blogger friends across the globe that keep me centered, encourage me to love what I do and stand strong in who I am…

Visit these bloggers. You won’t be disappointed!

X

Jacqui

 

71 Comments on “Staying True To Myself As A Blogger”

  1. You are an inspiration and an amazing person. Don’t let other people’s negativity brighten your shine. It is not worth it. The pettiness that was shown last week by some bloggers is sad, but it showed insecurities. Be who you are! You are an amazing woman, mom and friend. xxx

  2. The industry is really difficult, thanks for sharing this. I actually try to stay away from getting involved for this very reason no matter how right you are, in someone’s eyes you’re wrong and depending on that person’s influence it could be blown way out of proportion I’ve seen it happen to so many people already. It’s probably cowardly of me but I guess I’m not ready for that kind of backlash either. Good luck in the future and good on you for staying true! Xxx

  3. This is a great reminder to us all. Integrity is key! We don’t blog for other bloggers, we blog for ourselves so we must remain true to ourselves. It was a tough week! You made it though. Onwards and upwards!! X

  4. This was a lovely round-up, Jackqui, thanks for including me. I’m honored. And keep on being true to yourself. This–whatever it was–will pass and won’t hurt so much one day. And yet I bet you’ll still be here, doing you, doing your writing, encouraging and sharing yourself with us.

  5. It’s good to stand what you believe for and I believe you did the right thing. Tuff part is always after doing what’s right. This world doesn’t always play along with the good side. You are a strong woman with a good honest voice ❤️ Don’t loose that.

    1. It’s tough standing up for your convictions when there are so many other opinions out there. This has been such a huge learning experience for me. Thank you for your support! x

  6. I read so many of these bloggers posts and they are a true inspiration, and you know what? So are you! Just keep doing what you’re best at – being you and be proud! Honesty is the best policy. #ThatFridayLinky

  7. A fab read so inspirational, thank you for featuring g me very kind Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

  8. Sorry that you’ve had a rough time with standing up for your integrity. But as you say it’s the right thing to do!

    #GlobalBlogging

  9. Really enjoyed reading all these. I completely agree that transparemcy is important and this post was just what ai needed to read this morning! #globalblogging

  10. In a way it’s hard of course but on another one it’s relieving I think. This is who you are and this is what you think. And expressing that as a blogger is vital and the only way forward. I’m never afraid of talking about issues what might make others uncomfortable because we have different views. Sorry for your bad experience but as you said it was a learning experience. #globalblogging

  11. being true to yourself is integral part of blogging, its the place we all share, and you can’t do that if you are holding back or in disguise. love the comments from some of those in your support network x #globalblogging

  12. I don’t know what situation you went through but well done for drawing the positives from your experience. I believe we grow stronger through our hardest battles. An interesting read with the comments from some well-known bloggers. I’m delighted to link up for the first time with the #globalblogging linky. 😊

    1. So pleased to have you join us!! Absolutely, everything we experience has some kind of lesson, whether we choose to embrace it or not, is up to us! Staying positive is an absolute must!

  13. What a great post! I love reading posts where other bloggers give their views and opinions. Good job. It’s tricky to stay true to the blog sometimes so some great advice. #globalblogging

  14. I think that’s why it’s so important to only blog when you really have something to say — and you really mean it! There will always be trolls, but they are to be ignored. Plenty of great people on the blogosphere!

  15. What an important topic, and one I definitely struggle with too. I always go back to the question of “Which issue do I want to go to the mat for?” I’m not going to take up every single cause and tick off every living being. Ha!! But I don’t mind picking a few causes that I will stick up for through hell or high water because they are that important to me. I hope the stress from that post died down for you. It sounds like a good experience to have under your belt, and you have a beautiful, successful blog here. Pleased to meet you!

    1. Thank you so much!! That is so kind of you to say! There are definitely topics that are close to our hearts and need our undivided attention. I also wouldn’t want to tick everyone off 🙂

  16. Sometimes we do things outside of our comfort zone. It does not always turn out they way we expected but you will always know that you stood by your truth and beliefs.

    1. That is true. It’s very hard to step out of one’s comfort zone. It’s important to accept the lesson, ESPECIALLY when it doesn’t turn out the way we want it too! xx

  17. Well done on staying true to yourself, I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion and sometimes that opinion should be shared. Try not to take to heart any negative comments, especially if you have conviction in your opinions. #GlobalBlogging

  18. I couldn’t agree with you more. Integrity means a lot to me as well as staying true to what I believe in and my values. This is very important to me. We are all so different, with different backgrounds and viewpoints and I respect that. Blogging has allowed me to express my opinions on various subject matters. It doesn’t mean that those reading my posts are in agreement to what I’m saying and vice versa. If I don’t agree, I will question and speak my truth. The world would’ve been a very boring place if you all were like robots and agreed and accepted everything that was thrown our way.#globalblogging
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    1. That’s the beauty of it. Knowing and respecting each others value systems. Absolutely. The key is respect though. If only it worked that way for everyone 🙂 Thank you for your comment. x

  19. Staying true to my blog has been pretty easy thus far as I’m still in the early stages and haven’t had too much chance to go off on a weird tangent. There’s still plenty of time though!

  20. I am sorry you had a negative experience and I know from my own experience once or twice over 10 years of blogging so not too bad that it hurts and throws you for a while. How amazing you can tap into not only your offline support systems but also people met online. Those who are true to themselves are very special and easier to be around in the end. Popping over from Monday Morning Blog Club

  21. I agree, you have to stay true to yourself otherwise what is the point of writing? If it isn’t heartfelt, it doesn’t mean anything. It is a shame when people that disagree can become quite negative rather than expressing their opinion. How boring would the world be if we all agreed and all had the same opinions. It’s how you express those opinions that cause the pain though isn’t it? #ThatFridayLinky

  22. I didn’t see your post but I think you have to stay true to yourself and write about what you want to. If you’re going to write about something controversial then I suppose you have to expect some negative comments. There’s always those posts that you don’t expect to cause issues that end up surprising you though! #globalblogging

  23. Ooohhh I won’t ask what happened (I missed it), but I have seen a lot of negativity thrown at blogger pals in the past. Simply because something they had said was taken out of context and dramatically over exaggerated and twisted into something else. It definitely happens, but we can’t be afraid of it. I agree that voicing what you think matters and being true to yourself will always make for interesting reading. #globalblogging
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  24. What is the point of our blogs if not to be our true self and to offer our own voices and opinions. If someone disagrees they are free to move onto another blog. I say keep shining, keep being true to who you are! Fabulous post! #globalblogging

  25. OOhh what did you do? I have no idea – I always miss the boat with these things. Probably for the best really. Hey, whatever it was – as long as you know you had good intentions and you are happy with yourself it doesn’t matter what other people think. Crack on, chin up #MMBC

  26. I believe in being honest in my blog. I won’t write or post anything that doesn’t represent me as a person and match what I write about on my blog. What I write is very important to me, which is why I write. I love my readers because they are supportive. I have yet to get any major negative feedback, save one and after thinking about what the person said, I didn’t retract my own opinions for his sake. My opinions are my own. I am a firm believer that if someone can’t disagree with me in a respectful manner, that says more about them then it does about me. So I keep doing me. I know who I am and what I want. No substitutions. It’s very important that we as bloggers are honest and write with integrity. I simply can’t see why anyone would be anything less, even at the cost of offending someone else. We are all different because we aren’t meant to be the same. Life would be so boring if we were. Thanks so much for hosting #globalblogging
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  27. There have been times I’ve toyed with the idea of writing a post on a controversial subject. So far they are all half written drafts, maybe one day they might see the light of day.

    I don’t think I have the mental energy to deal with that section of the internet it would unleash.

    You’ve rounded up some fantastic bloggers who as you’d expect have all given great advice.

    Thanks for hosting #globalblogging
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  28. I think some people really like crapping on someone’s happy day. It seems to give these types of people enjoyment. As long as you stay true to your beliefs and what you morally think it right, then you can do no more. #GlobalBlogging

  29. I don’t understand why you’d want to be anyone other than yourself. I love this quote by Oscar Wilde ‘Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.’ #globalblogging

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