Mindful Mothering

I was enjoying some mommy reading this weekend and stumbled upon this article from one of my favorite South African magazines, YOUR FAMILY.

With just over 2 weeks to go until our little man arrives, I must admit my patience has been incredibly short, my mood dark and dreary, and my poor kids (and husband) have been the unfortunate recipients of a super grumpy mommy.

And there it is, sneaking quietly in through the back door… #momguilt (I’m sure we’ve all felt it before).

YOUR FAMILY has set up a Mom Challenge for this coming month. One challenge per day. I have already put reminders on my phone (because that’s how much of a ditz I am right now; I need reminders to do everything from brushing my teeth to cooking dinner) … why don’t you join me?

“We’ve set a tiny challenge for each day, a single thought or prompt that’ll have a big impact over the next 31 days. You’ll learn a lot about them, and talk more about the important things in their world and yours. Join us on our journey to more mindful mothering…

  1. Ask: what have you been thinking about lately?
  2. Tell your child: I’m glad you are my son/daughter.
  3. Go 24 hours without raising your voice.
  4. Limit your screen time and use these minutes/hours to read to your child, talk to them.
  5. Have a staring contest with your child.
  6. Ask: what is your favourite joke?
  7. Ask: what makes you afraid?
  8. Remember yourself at their age. Think about what you enjoyed and valued about your own mom.
  9. Teach your child a new skill.
  10. Practice listening to your child without interrupting.
  11. Ask your child’s opinion on something that’s important to the family.
  12. Make or buy them their favourite snack.
  13. Ask: what’s your lucky number, and why?
  14. Watch them while they are asleep.
  15. Ask: when last did you cry, and why?
  16. Ask: where would you visit if you could go anywhere?
  17. Rub their shoulders or give them a hug/cuddle. Say: I remember when you used to fit in my arms.
  18. Ask: what is your earliest memory?
  19. Think of the best mother you know. Model her most admirable quality today.
  20. Picture how you’d like your children to remember you. Is your behaviour moving you towards or away from that image?
  21. Swap their evening story for a joke book. Laughing together is a great way to bond.
  22. Watch their favourite program with them. Give it your undivided attention.
  23. Say: I’ve learnt the most amazing things from you.
  24. Ask: what’s been the best day of your life so far?
  25. Ask: what’s the best thing that’s happened to you this week?
  26. Bake something with your child. Use the time for casual chatter.
  27. Play your child a song that reminds you of him/her.
  28. Start a family scrapbook, or spend time looking at their baby albums together.
  29. Tell them something you are grateful for today, and ask them to share something of their own.
  30. Ask: which 5 words would your friends use to describe you?
  31. Avoid the N word: explore different ways to say no.

It’s always good to be reminded of ways to bring us back into focusing on what really matters. We get so busy with life that we forget the simple things. So, even if – like me – you need to set a new reminder on your smartphone calendar, do it! I’m looking forward to “rezoning” my attention this coming month! I hope you do to…

With Love 

One Messy Mama


53 Comments on “Mindful Mothering”

  1. I am sitting here asking my son all the questions, I just wouldn’t have the patience to make it last a month lol #globalblogging

  2. Wonderful idea, I’m definitely gonna put this into practice.
    And wow, TWO weeks to go, so exciting – all the grump will be soon forgotten in all that joy! X

  3. This is a great list of ideas! I need to print it off RIGHT NOW!!! I am guilty of getting carried away with my own stuff and the daily chores & I forget to focus on what is truly important! THANK YOU for the reminder!!!!

  4. Needed to read this list. Been manic (and will be for the next few months) as we’re moving house, going on a trip back home, getting Little Man into a new pre-school… I need to be more mindful and grateful and will remember these points. All the best for the new arrival love…

  5. Oh mom brain! I’m finally coming out of that fog a bit thanks to a sleep schedule, finally! Good luck with the next two weeks! #globalblogging

  6. I always have mum guilt. I go to work-I feel guilty, I stay at home-I worry that I’m not stimulating her enough. We all need to go easy on ourselves. I’ll definitely try to incorporate some of your list into my day. Thanks as always #GlobalBlogging

    1. It’s sad to say that life is just so busy. There is always something keeping us on the go. I for one definitely need a reminder like this every now and then. xx Thanks for reading.

  7. Oh this is a lovely little challenge… well… big challenge actually! I think id love to do this when my little man is a little older and can actually answer some of the questions! And amazing you only have two weeks before your due date! You’ve got this Mama <3

  8. Fab ideas not sure I could go 24 hours without shouting with five children haha! Hope all goes well with the birth 🙂 thanks for hosting #globalblogging

  9. Oh I love this idea, and will try some of the points, but my 3yo still quite limited in language skills, so I have to skip a few other points. But even completing half of the list is great, I think!
    Good luck to you, not too long now 🙂

  10. Oh I love this and I am SOOOO going to take part!
    I’ve just started to go back to work and there are times when I really do miss that straight-home-from-school energy they bring with them. This is a good way to do something different with the children and make sure we always talk about something different.
    Best of luck with your new arrival… how very exciting!
    Thanks for hosting #GlobalBlogging – I always enjoy taking part, I just need to organise myself better to take part more often!


  11. Hey, you’re allowed to be a ditz when pregnant, embrace it! This is a cute idea. I like the scrapbook idea. I was speaking with my colleagues this week about starting one for work to look back on. A family one is cute too 🙂 #GlobalBlogging

  12. What a wonderful challenge! Encouraging patience, love, self-expression, so many great things.
    Happy almost baby time!! I remember hating the last couple of weeks, but now I look back on that time with fondness. It’s funny how memories like the work, isn’t it?
    Thanks for sharing and hosting #globalblogging

  13. I just love this idea!!!!! Some great things listed – I”m gonna try it! Thanks for sharing lovely xx

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