You have so many defining moments as a parent. Those moments that make you think and feel so deeply it’s almost unfathomable. You can’t explain it, really, you just know that this moment will change your life.
Well, I had a moment just like that a few weeks back. My 4 year old was driving me up the wall. He was “Tigger” personified… It was bounce, bounce here, roar, roar there… I just knew it was going to be one of THOSE days. After many warnings I had just had enough. My voice got louder and my words got harder. Eventually sending him to his room.
And then it happened – that sinking feeling – I knew I was wrong. Then the questioning began, “Should I leave it?”, “Must I say something?” Deep down, I knew what had to be done… I had to apologize (and for those who know me, admitting that I was wrong does not come naturally).
I took one step at a time, slowly making my way up the stairs , I could hear his sobs and this broke my heart! As I came through the door he lifted his red, tear stained, face. I sat next to him and slowly began to apologize for my anger, and the way that I had dealt with the situation. “Mommies can also make mistakes” I said. “Please forgive me, I’m really sorry.” Still crying a little, he looked up at me and said, “It’s OK Mommy.” We cuddled, made up, and went downstairs for a snack.
THAT Was my defining moment. It was a tough lesson to learn, but one well worth learning. As a parent I learnt that I needed to be more thoughtful in a moment of frustration and, most of all, to never think that I am above asking my children for forgiveness.
One Messy Mama