Dear Cupid!

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With Valentines Day around the corner, I thought I would share a post from the Archives.

Dear Cupid

I don’t know about the rest of you, but for me Valentine’s day tends to be a very rushed, manic and mostly frustrating day (at least in recent years that’s been the case in our house). We wake up, have a quick kiss, pull out a card, chocolate or maybe a bunch of flowers and we’re all set to go… And by “go” I mean the little one needs a nappy change, the older 3 need food NOW! The day starts with a relieved sigh of gratitude; “Oh thank goodness we both remembered”, and then quickly spirals out from there.

To make matters worse, there is the added pressure of having to buy a gift – or make one – to show your partner how much you love them (fine, I’ll admit that this is usually a self-imposed pressure, but that doesn’t make it any easier). But, just to prove that it’s not always self-imposed pressure, here’s an example of a recent conversation: “So”, she asked, “what is YOUR husband getting you for Valentine’s Day, anything exciting?” I felt like replying, “Why? Does the size of the gift determine who has the better husband?”

When did Valentine’s Day become such a sales gimmick? Is that, seriously, how shallow we have become? Forgive me for getting on my ‘soapbox’ a little here…

I think the fact that you actually have someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day with is a gift worth celebrating! Shouldn’t every day be a celebration of love? The world would be a far more beautiful place if we all woke up every day and started it with little “gifts” of patience, kindness, thoughtfulness, a kiss, a lingering cuddle, the list could go on… really. If we began each day with appreciation for the one we love, the whole day would take on a different direction. Marriages and relationships would be stronger and better able to face the gloomy and hard days.

Now I know that, as with most important things, sometimes we need a little reminder. So, yes, I do believe that there is some value in Valentine’s Day; if for no other reason than it gives us an opportunity to pause and pay attention to the love we have in our lives.

But few would disagree that we need to address Valentine’s Day in a different way, a more meaningful way. So I decided to write a brief letter to the main culprit, Cupid himself, as my attempt to approach Valentine’s Day in a new way…

Dear Cupid.

If it’s all about you, and not about us, go away. If it’s about plastic hearts, and teddies that collect dust, I’m not interested. If it’s about flowers that die and chocolates that get devoured, take it somewhere else. For you see, the love of MY life is with me every day in a real way. He makes me laugh EVERY DAY, my pulse quickens when he smiles at me, EVERY DAY, and when he whispers in my ear that he loves me, EVERY DAY… Even on the tough days… I truly experience real love. So yes, although all those spoils and treats are special, I love being reminded EVERY DAY just how blessed I am! That’s what makes me complete – not just one day of the year.

So here’s to appreciating the ones we love. EVERY DAY!

With love

One Messy Mama

x

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68 thoughts on “Dear Cupid!

  1. Jessica - A Modern Mom's Life

    We don’t do much of anything for Valentine’s Day – never have and likely never will. My birthday falls on the 2nd so we “go out” for that and then if we can take another “date night” within the month we’ll do it. We’re not a flowers and candy household. We do up Valentines for the kids at school and that’s enough stress, thank-you-very-much! I very much prefer celebrating each other every day. Hugs, “I love you”s and general kindness and respect are all I need.
    ~Jess
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    1. One Messy Mama Post author

      Well I hope you had a wonderful birthday! I would rather celebrate that! 🙂 And yes, school valentines are the worst! I have 3 kids in school = 90 valentines I have to prepare.. AARRGG. 🙂

  2. Kirsty Hijacked By Twins

    I LOVE THIS!!! I also think that Valentines day is way too commercial and it is another way for the big companies to make yet more money. When you have that special one you should be thankful everyday! x #GlobalBlogging

  3. Jeannette

    Appreciate the person in your life everyday. Not just one day a year. Sounds like you have a magic husband to share Valentine’s Day (and every day) with. #globalblogging

    1. One Messy Mama Post author

      Haha! Sometimes I feel like it is just another thing to add to the LONG list of things that I have already forgotten to do…. Just buy me a bottle of wine and I’m happy! 🙂

  4. Carolina Twin Mom / Mary Peterson

    Hahaha! So KISS IT, Cupid! 😉 I’m like you and have never been a big fan of V-Day. SO commercialized. Demonstrating love for someone should never be forced but shown naturally. Having said all that, I do think it’s kinda cute for the little tykes. 🙂
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  5. Josefine

    Hear hear! I couldn’t agree more, yet I’m sure I’ll still feel disappointed if I don’t get flowers on Valentine’s Day! Lol #globalblogging

  6. melissa abel

    Thanks for making me feel better about my own thoughts on Valentines day . Its like Christmas, a retailers dream! Be loving everyday I say, God knows with all the pressure on us we need to be strong together as couples, one day a year doesn’t cut it.
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  7. Samsam

    I believe we should celebrate our love everyday, buy random gifts to each other with no special occasion just that you remembered you husband when you saw this so you had to get it for him and vise versa. #globalblogging

  8. Susie / So Happy In Town

    Absolutely agree with you wholeheartedly on this – we don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day really in our house as it shouldn’t be on one day we show our appreciation of each other. Often we forget to at all quite frankly! But it’s a 365 day thing. #GlobalBlogging

  9. The Hippy Christian Mum

    Aw sweet. I found we were buying each other things for Valentine’s Day just for the sake of it so we set up a new rule…we don’t bother with Valentine’s but we make an extra fuss on our wedding anniversary. Well that lasted for one year I think and we haven’t done anything special since. ;( Ah well! #GlobalBlogging
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    1. One Messy Mama Post author

      Yup, life sure does change once the kids arrive. But even words of kindness and thankfulness show an appreciation and mean so much more than a silly red card. xxx

  10. Sally

    Completely agree, it shouldn’t be about one day, but it is nice to take some time out to spend it together and appreciate each other. Sometimes it’s hard to do that on a regular basis. We normally just cook a really nice meal and snuggle together on the sofa. Maybe no different to a Saturday night, but somehow it’s more important as it’s all about just us.

    Sally @ Life Loving

  11. Rhian Harris

    I agree – it is a load of old commercial toot, but I still get / make a card for my husband. I tell him I love him every day, but it feels a bit ungrateful to not acknowledge the day in some way! #globalblogging

  12. Chilli Regina

    I love your post as I completely agree with you. Me and my husband don’t celebrate Valentine’s day with gifts and cards but we open a bottle of wine or champagne and I usually make some chocolate desserts which everyone in our house loves;). But all this can and does happen on an ordinary tuesday night somewhere during the year with no reason at all. 😉 Just because we feel like it;) And because we LOVE each other every day. 🙂

  13. Michelle

    We are a bit lazy with valentines day and tend to just get a card, a takeaway and some chocolates each. I prefer to celebrate our wedding anniversary instead #globalblogging

  14. momoftwolittlegirls

    You are so right. The ‘pressure’ we all put on ourselves is bad enough, without feeling pressured by outside parties. Love is shown between a couple every day in the smallest and most normal or ways, not just one day a year.
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  15. Laura - Threesypeasy

    I really dislikenjoyed valentines day – just another gimmick trying to make me depart with more money. Totally agree it’s the little things that we do every day that make a difference x #globalblogging

  16. Eva Katona

    I love Valentine’s Day, but I fully agree that you need to embrace all the love in your life every day. But I do like special days, like Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries and Valentine’s Days – I love the preparation period. I enjoy planning and looking forward to something special. And I love giving presents – but I fully agree, it’s now out of our hands, so commercial our special days became.

    1. One Messy Mama Post author

      I think if we celebrate these days in our own way it can still be so special. I just think it is sad getting sucked into the whole commercial side of it you know? The bigger the better. When just a simple candlelit dinner at home or a restaurant should be just as special. Or a card etc. Love your comment! x

  17. Mummy Bee

    We do all take Valentine’s Day for granted and forget the true meaning of it and just get caught up in the gifts. I don’t think my OH and I will be doing anything special this year, our first year with the baby and he is so clingy don’t think we can leave him with anyone for a dinner date #Globalblogging

  18. Rach

    Great post and you’re right with what you say.. One valentines day I spent in a bingo hall with my other half. It was the strangest yet most fun valentines I’ve ever had! #globalblogging

  19. Jo - Mother of Teenagers

    We don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day but as my birthday is so close to it my husband does add an extra flower in the birthday bouquet to show his romantic side is still alive and kicking. #globalblogging

  20. Alana - Burnished Chaos

    Great post, I totally agree. We don’t really bother with Valentine’s Day not least because it’s actually my husband’s birthday on that day and that’s far more important to me x
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  21. Suchitra

    Oh Geez….I don’t even remember the last time I celebrated Valentine’s Day. Such a fake commercial day, don’t you think!? Oh well…something to say about fueling an economy with cheesy hearts and chocolates. Sorry to be such a downer #globalblogging

  22. Brandi Puga

    We aren’t very valentinesy around here either, i get some stuff for the kids and we make dinner at home and have dessert when we normally wouldn’t, but that’s about it!

  23. Rebecca

    Totally agree! I just like the fact my man takes me out for a meal… all about the food! And some free chocolate never goes amiss! We date very often but its a sure thing that we will get a babysitter for Valentines day as our family realise the necessity for us to maintain our relationship… but we don’t but in to all of the plastic, overpriced, pink heart shiz! <3 #globalblogging

    1. One Messy Mama Post author

      We also go out for dinner. More of a date night than anything else! But yes, no teddies that collect dust or silly glitter covered plastic roses. EW..

  24. Nige

    Sounds very much like our home fab post Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

  25. Laura Beresford

    You are SOOOO right! Chris and I are having a meal together without the kids but not bothering with cards or presents. I hope he knows how much I love him, it’s the little things like making sure he never runs out of pants etc! #ThatFridayLinky

  26. Emily

    My husband and I don’t really do Valentines day. To me it’s all a bit too commercial and just about these companies and shops making money. Thanks for linking up to #ThatFridayLinky

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