10 things I love about being in my thirties!

I turned 35 this week. As my children sang “Happy Birthday”, showering me with kisses and laughter, I looked at the full table in front of me; an amazing husband and father, four gorgeous children, and I thought to myself: “My, how I have grown.”

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Here’s my list of what I love about being in my 30’s

  1. Becoming more mature. The beautiful thing about becoming more mature is that I believe I am better able to deal with trying situations, and life in general. I’m calmer and more resilient. Better able to step back and review.
  2. Becoming a better friend. As I grow older I have realized the importance of friendship. That those relationships turn into family. My friends children become my “children”. Letting go of little spats, and learning to invest more into those friendships, has been a growing lesson for me.
  3. Becoming content. We all have dreams and aspirations, but I’ve learnt to become less restless about mine. I’m not saying we shouldn’t pursue our dreams, I just think I’ve become more specific about WHICH dreams I choose to chase. I’ve become happy and content with my life, appreciating what’s in front of me, instead of looking past it and not fully appreciating what I have.
  4. Becoming more appreciative and grateful. I’m not saying people younger than me are not appreciative and grateful, I’m saying that I have become more appreciative and grateful for the small things in life. Of the people in my life. Of what I have and for what lies ahead.
  5. Becoming “softer”. I was quite a “hard ass” in my teens and 20’s. And I feel that with age and children, I have become gentler, more understanding. Willing to listen. More patient with others – and much more forgiving (perhaps because I realize that in 35 years there have been quite a few people who were patient with me and forgave me).
  6. Becoming kinder. I went through a phase in my life when I was angry with the world. I became aggressive and abrupt in my speaking. But I have realized the importance of kindness, that 1 second of kindness can change a life. That a smile or a kind word can change a person. That I am no different to the person standing next to me. Instead of judging them, why not learn their story and journey with them. Oh what we can learn from others. Even people we might not like. There is never a moment in life that we cannot learn from.
  7. Becoming brave. I know now how to stand up for my beliefs and opinions, whether these are regarding my faith, parenting style, or lifestyle. I have no fear of standing up for myself and my family. Learning to be respectfully brave is the one thing I am most proud of.
  8. Becoming a better wife. I know this might sound silly to some. However I have come to love my husband more deeply. Appreciate his friendship more, his counsel, and mostly the father he is. It has revealed so much more of him to me. And my thankfulness for having him in my life is never ending.
  9. Becoming less concerned with what others think about me. So often we get bogged down by others’ opinions of us. It can so easily worm its way into our lives. It’s great to be at a point in my life to be able to say: “Well, this is who I am, and I am not defined by your opinion of me.”
  10. Becoming more forgiving of my body. I know I will never have a flat belly, arms that don’t sway and flap when I wave, boobs that are once again perky, and a bottom that doesn’t sag a little. It’s not that I don’t try, It’s just life. My body is exactly that. Mine. Learning to love it, trying to look after it, but mostly being grateful that I am healthy, has been a huge growth point for me. One I still struggle with daily. Learning to be forgiving of my body and in turn climbing into that swimsuit and enjoying life.

My life will be filled with memories that I CHOOSE to make, I sure as hell don’t want to look back with I should haves!

I loved my 20’s, I’m thoroughly enjoying my 30’s and I can’t wait for what my 40’s, etc, are going to bring. Here’s to living life to the fullest! Each moment, each day, even when the sun doesn’t seem to shine. There is always something to enjoy!

With Love

One Messy Mama

x

40 thoughts on “10 things I love about being in my thirties!

  1. Laura - dear bear and beany

    I love this list and agree with so many of these. I am definitely more mature and forgiving than I was. I need to work on worrying about what people think of me, I think this is my biggest downfall and stops me from making friends x #happydays

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    1. jaxbest4 Post author

      I think the entire “worry” phase kind of lingers. It’s hard to let that one go. But we can try can’t we! We still have our 30’s, 40’s, 50’s etc to perfect it! xoxo

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  2. girl stuff

    I turned 37 this week, and your list exactly sums up being in my 30s. About 2 years ago, I switched to a more sedentary job, and instantly gained 10 pounds (I’m 5 feet tall, so 10 pounds makes a noticeable difference). for 6 months, I was very depressed about the weight gain. And you know what? now I love my curvier, plumper body, and my husband does too! It was also an excuse to buy new pants and a bunch of cute blouses that fit me better.

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  3. James

    I think any age is great if you make the most of it but absolutely agree that having now been in my 30s for quite a while it is a pretty decent place to be! Having a little one has definitely helped too! #KCACOLS

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  4. Rebecca Taylor

    This is such a fantastic list – thank you for sharing. I can relate to many of them as I am turning 34 this year. It’s wonderful you are in such a happy place. #KCACOLS

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  5. Emma me and b

    lovely post 🙂 im mid 30s now and I agree with your points on caring less about what people say and just being more content and grateful for life. I also have some hang ups though – I sometimes feel like my best years are over :/ I know they aren’t and its what I make of life and all… #ABrandNewDay

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    1. jaxbest4 Post author

      Oh most definitely! I have some things that I wish I had accomplished in my 20’s … But as you say, it’s what we make of it,, and that bucket list can still be achieved, just a little differently! Thanks for reading! x

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  6. Kat

    I’m approaching my thirties now and I really hope that I feel all these things when I do! At the moment I just feel a bit stuck! But thats what 20’s are supposed to be about isn’t it? Trying, changing, adapting, learning…thanks so much for linking up to #KCACOLS and hope to see you back next time!

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    1. jaxbest4 Post author

      I totally agree with you on that one! My 20’s were the most “interesting” years. Definitely a growing point in my life. Loved linking up! Thank you !! x

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  7. Single Mum Speaks

    There are definitely some good things about being in your thirties, I think. I feel more confident and sure of myself in some ways, and a lot more settled, but for me I think a lot of that has come from having a child, rather than from age. #abrandnewday

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  8. Jenny

    Great list! It makes me think my 30’s won’t be so bad. I’m almost 30 and I’m pleased to know that someon’s enjoying it haha! x

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  9. Katy (What Katy Said)

    This is just the loveliest post. At 32 I feel I am at the same point in life and agree with all of your statements. I feel happier with my body and more content in life. But, I was talking to my husband yesterday and saying how even though I am very much a grown up and have been a very sensible adult for years and years now, I just don’t feel like a grown up. I don’t exactly know what would make me feel more grown up but I just don’t feel any different to how I felt 10 years ago say. I think I am just weird. Or maybe I need to go buy some more grown up clothes and stop wearing leggings – who knows!

    Thank you for sharing in #HappyDaysLinky x

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    1. jaxbest4 Post author

      Oh I love leggings. I would live in them if I could! But I understand what you are saying. Sometimes I need to remind myself that I am not 20 anymore. I guess my brain doesn’t always keep up!! xx

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  10. Mindful Mummy Mission

    A post I can really relate to as I am coming to the age when I’m thinking about entering my 40s! I agree with all of these things and LOVE this decade. All I’d say is that no. 5 – I think I’ve actually become a bit ‘harder’ in the sense that I am more assertive and less apologetic about things – hopefully I’ve not become too hard tho! #ABrandNewDay

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  11. Geraldine

    Happy birthday! I am 33 today and I’ve Been looking back at my 20’s to now and noticing how much I’ve changed too. Birthdays make us very reminiscent don’t they :)#KCACOLS

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